GOOD FRUIT - Help yourself
Concepts and Ideas revisited by Caspar RJ Chamberlain
1.Clear thought and language control
2.Healthy Body healthy mind
3.Situation, situation, solution
4.Men, guns and relationships
5.Animals and kids
6.Money and work
8.The state of mind
9.Energy, Energy2 believe
10.Energy at work
Good Thoughts Bear Good Fruit
Observe your thoughts for they become your actions
Observe your actions as they become your habits
Observe your habits as they become your character
Observe your character as it becomes your destiny
Man is the maker of his character, the moulder of his life, and the builder of his
Watching yourself, taking stock, looking in the mirror, thinking before your leap
all of these have a base in common sense. If we take our time to do something
we'll do it right or as best we can.
This short text will outline some concepts based on real situations. The idea of
this text is to clarify what we optimistic souls already know. We make our own
January 2009, I completed my 33rd birthday just a month ago the 25th, I guess it
would give you more confidence if the writer was older, so it may come as some
comfort that I have always demonstrated a maturity beyond my years. Also my
Wii fit age is 37. I have no children and have never been married.
1. Clear Thought and Language Control
Think positive act positive, we are what we think.
If I start my day thinking how dreadful it's going to be I'll transmit that
through my words and energy (see chapter 9). If however I start my day with a
dominate state of mind I can control my thoughts and words and transmit
confidence therefore my days goes well.
James bond doesn't walk into a room and say what a shit day he's having.
no he dominates; makes the first move takes control of himself and does what
has to be done.
note. dominant behaviour is not aggressive behaviour. (see chapter 2, posture)
Weakness, it's not a weakness to admit a weakness. example: I'm dyslexic, yes
the writer of this text has a weakness. Put your cards right on the table. Don't
hark on about them, don't use them as an excuse, don't hide them or behind
I know my weakness, I let my employers know and I also let them know
what I'm doing to dominate the problem. I have short term memory weakness,
very common among men. I work around it, I have technology on my side, if I
need to remember something or spell something I use my Nokia, it has an
excellent memory. Post-it Notes were invented for a reason. show people how
you combat your weakness and it's no longer a threat.
Strong man weak man
‘All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own
thoughts. In a justly ordered universe, where loss of equipoise would mean total
destruction, individual responsibility must be absolute. A man's weakness and strength,
purity and impurity, are his own, and not another man's. They are brought about by
himself, and not by another; and they can only be altered by himself, never by another.
His condition is also his own, and not another man's. His suffering and his happiness are
evolved from within. As he thinks, so he is; as he continues to think, so he remains.’
‘A strong man cannot help a weaker unless the weaker is willing to be helped, and even
then the weak man must become strong of himself. He must, by his own efforts, develop
the strength which he admires in another. None but himself can alter his condition.’
2. Healthy Body Healthy Mind
When it comes to your body look after No.1 – that's you.
Food, this means don't overindulge not even at Christmas, eat properly. if you're
a sports person, you need a diet based on protein and carbs, but why just leave
it for the pros. how do you see yourself as a Ferrari or a Larda (no pun intended)
so this is a basic low fat diet and you can't go wrong.
Your body will tell you what you need and when you've had enough. but if
you have three balanced meals that include fruit and veg and a normal quantity
of water your body wont crave much else. This seems like common sense right?
well it is and all these texts are. common sense is the second most important
sense after sense of humour.
‘Change of diet will not help a man who will not change his thoughts. When a man
makes his thoughts pure, he no longer desires impure food.’ (Allen)
Exercise, three times a week please. run, swim, cycle, gym, walking the dog,
skating the list goes on if you increase your heart rate (though not through long
periods of stress) you exercise this important muscle, along with your lungs and
all the muscles that helped you get there in the first place. Sweating is good for
you. Exercise improves your metabolism so you digest better, exercise creates
endorphins which helps you feel happier and more relaxed. If you have a
problem or feel depressed go for a run 30 minutes later I guarantee that your
negative thoughts vanish. I have been running two or three times a week for the
last eight years, it started as a way to clear my mind by exhausting my body.
Especially recommended for those that feel a bit lost. get some focus back.
Short term stress, running for the bus when you are late, is actually good for you
- it keeps you on the ball, but if you do no exercise you will find this short event
Asthma, I was a sufferer, from 10 but also kicked the inhaler habit when I read a
study done in Australia that the tubes of the lungs close up to rebalance the over
oxygenated blood. this causes the uncomfortable restricted breathing sensation.
However there is a simple cure. only breath through your nose. if you breath in
and out of your month you take in too much 02 and let out too much dioxin.
breathing through your nose naturally controls your system.
Taping your mouth closed at night is also a good idea for the first few nights.
Concentrating hard when running and it will be come natural. of course when
you eat, speak and laugh you will breath through your mouth. so if you feel out
of breath after. Stop and start breathing through your nose.
Posture, you never see a soldier on parade with his head down, it's surprisingly
simple, lift your nose up and your shoulders back and you automatically feel
more positive and ready for action. If you like classical music, check out the
violinists, they are sat for hours and their posture is amazing.
Controlling your centre is key, as I write this my head is down but I'm forcing my
abbs to clench; this is stopping me sitting like a bag of spudds. it's giving me a
stronger back so no back pain and of course I'm ready for anything.
Posture controls your youthful existence, fact: we are under pressure from
gravity. A young man will enter a room with confidence coming from his young
frame, as we get older confidence can lessen if we let our body slump. lift up
your head and your zest returns, instantly.
young old woman
‘I know a woman of ninety-six who has the bright, innocent face of a girl. I know a man
well under middle age whose face is drawn into inharmonious contours. The one is the
result of a sweet and sunny disposition; the other is the outcome of passion and
As you cannot have a sweet and wholesome abode unless you admit the air and
sunshine freely into your rooms, so a strong body and a bright, happy, or serene
countenance can only result from the free admittance into the mind of thoughts of joy
and good will and serenity.’ (Allen)
3. Situation, Situation, Solution
Ever watched Sumo, two huge men in shocking garments, yes but national
heroes. One of the key elements to winning is a small action performed even
before the men look at each other. They take a hand full of salt and toss it. this is
dominance, posture, confidence they believe, they channel their thoughts to the
win from this very first moment.
Poker – Texas hold 'em, great game full of opportunity. Up to ten people at a
table playing against each other not the casino. Therefore you have control, yes
you need to know card combinations and odds, but you have the control over
yourself if you have that you will transmit your confidence your assertive moves
will dominate the situation.
Those two examples are extremes but lets remember we are what we think (thou
be careful not to be believe your own hype) be calm, assert yourself, stop to
think when a small crisis occurs, but remember nothing waists time like time
Hindsight, we might as well call it 'looking at your arse' as that's how useful it is.
when we look back in time we calculate elements definitely and arrive at a
untouchable perfection. that is useless for you now. Save it on your hard drive
and one day it'll become wisdom. You can't change the past so don't conjugate it
in your head. if I had seen, been, done...it's time-wasting. head up an grab a new
hand-full of salt and crack on.
Two more things
1, when analysis and instinct are in conflict, trust instinct and analyse after.
2, if the situation is chaotic, don't worry if you can't see through all the
complications those around you probably can't either. calculate the calculable.
‘A man cannot directly choose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and
so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstance.’ (Allen)
4. Men, Guns and Relationships
Men, lets start with the teenage man – lots of testosterone and not enough outlet
for it, and I don't mean sex, I mean activities. There are some young men that
have been guided into sporting activities and therefore can skip this bit, for the
rest we need to find something to do.
Ever smashed up a phone box? if not then I bet something else. for sure
you have seen rioting either first hand or on TV– 99% young men. very few old
fellas setting rubbish bins alight. ok so you can see where I'm going with this,
some men don't grow up. so if your boy friend sets fire to something after his
25th birthday I think it's a pretty clear sign that he's not ready to father the child
you had in mind.
Guns (USA listen up)
As we have seen the young man is not often ready to steady his mind so
giving a gun to that unstable mind is not a good idea. nobody under the age of
30 should have access to guns, we are too aggressive and lets face it if you have
a gun, you want to fire it!
In six weeks, we will hunt you down, wear you out with our charm, you'll
give in, but after the chase we are knackered so we back off. so the recipient of
all your attention then feels that something is wrong and you feel like running
and hiding. If you know this is going to happen then take your time. If it's going
to progress after this initial phase it will, if you are flogging a dead horse get off.
Patience, interest and affection in that order, keep yourself clam, know yourself
before you force you on another – if you don't know your own desire, needs and
wishes they wont either.
the calm man
‘The calm man, having learned how to govern himself, knows how to adapt himself to
others; and they, in turn, reverence his spiritual strength, and feel that they can learn of
him and rely upon him.’ (Allen)
5. Animals and Kids
'Rules, boundaries and limitations' says Cesar Millan and I'm completely with
him. if an animal has these elements, controlled by you in a calm and assertive
way it will respect you, be well behaved, happy and then become your friend.
Cesar's follow up formula is 'patients, exercise then affection
My experience working with hundreds of pre-teens follows exactly the same
rules. Managing groups of 48 kids 24 hours a day for 8 weeks taught me that
establishing the norms of conduct with each other, the camp, in activities, the
dinning hall, free time, bed time means they know from day one what the deal is.
for sure they will push the limits, but that is why you are in charge, to reinforce
the norms of conduct.
Remember if you were in there shoes what would you do? Giving discipline you
have to have this in mind and what would be the thing they least expect.
Example banging on the walls at 12am, they expect to get told off. But for me it
was simple, don't get angry that's also one of their goals, get cleaver. You are
smarter than a 11 year old. my reasoning was this if I have to get out of bed for
one bad apple then everybody has to. And we did. At 12.30 even those asleep in
other rooms, they hated me, but perfect at 12 am there is no time for friends
only the rules, boundaries and limitations.
‘Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results. Bad thoughts and actions
can never produce good results.’ (Allen)
6. Money and Work
Los que madruga Dios ayuda, god helps those that get up in the morning (weekends
In English like Spanish we have a similar phrase, the early bird catches the worm.
These are simple throw away phrases, but there real-time actions result in money
in your bank account at the end of the month. don't knock it this is your bread and
If you win the lottery, marry into money, inherit it, invent the new wheel or write a
bestseller then you'll have more dough than you know what to do with. the latter only
you can make happen with drive and determination like gold medal winners 12-14 hours
a day for years achieves these heights, but that's a hell of lot more hard work than your
I guess the average age of the person reading this is 30ish therefore we have another
30 years of work before we can retire. Now the glass is not just half full it's brimming
over. Modern lifestyle means that almost every decade we can change profession. this
means new people, new sector to understand, different salaries, and future directions.
it's a Christmas hamper full of all sorts of rich wonderful things.
HR experts will tell you that the decision that you made at 16 is not the one you
make at 30, and of course it goes on from there. Retraining, downshifting, going out on
your own, helping others will all give you new out looks and open your mind. And with
this wider scope of understanding you will attract more possibilities – so the glass never
money and work
‘The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his
power for good. Even the ordinary trader will find his business prosperity increase
as he develops a greater self-control and equanimity, for people will always prefer
to deal with a man whose demeanour is strongly equable.’ (Allen)
You have to believe it to see it, I don't believe in a god but I do believe that all religions
control the nations that we are apart of. Christmas, Ramadan, grace before meals,
prayers, expressions, por Dios, oh my god, Christ almighty, bless you, fucking hell.
Religions affect our lives. Prejudices continue as do wars and conflicts.
Basic honest values of any religion are a good structure to base cultural norms, and
legal systems by. if though you believe a blind following of an ancient text to be flawed, where do we start?
As children we learn to speak, read, write, share, make friends, fight, love and until about 20 years old we have no time to look back and look within to question human existence, races, cultures – this is when choosing a path is perhaps more important; distilling a positive mental state based on openness should we then take on board concepts of singular gods and decide to accept, reject or go your own way.
UK citizens should all thank Henry the VIII, that old bastard 500 years ago got his legal clerks to find a get out clause in the then catholic dominate doctrine from Rome so he could divorce one of his wives. much to the disgust of the Pope. England got rid of a queen and a religion. King H8 started the church of England a much more liberal version. Cutting to the chase this has filtered down to us toady meaning that although we have a calendar based on the catholic faith we have been pretty much left to blaze our own trail.
James Allen's text quoted through out this document, has a very gospel touch though I have placed a few edited nuggets that I hope are universal. 'Good thought, gives good fruit' therefore we make ourselves, we are the all-knowing but we have to look within and without to get the balance and set the direction.
8. State of mind
As humans we are very unstable, our moods change. Another persons' energy lowers or improves yours, music does the same.
If I listen to Pink Floyd for an hour my state of mind becomes less happy, less positive my state of mind is weakened, and pensive, third conditional sentences form if I had done, if I had been. Even though we can't change the past we often think about how it could or should have been. And as I have discussed this is looking at your arse.
Animals have an advantage over us as they don't think in the past. they live in the now. we need to do the same, so when an impossible to change past event pops into your head switch it off and remember you are in the present. also look around you what has caused this thought, a person who's bad energy has affected you, a song on the radio, change this external element too.
What behaviours do you repeat? this is about knowing yourself and how to combat your
irrational habits. example: when I meet someone new at work, through a friend or even
a stranger, I turn on my charisma and become more assertive, the second time I meet
this person it's switched off, I've returned to my normal quite and submissive self, I don't follow through, I put my foot on the brake. why? most probably because I've
subconsciously decided that I'm not interested in this person, due to their vibes, too dominate, weak, nervous.
But why turn on this mode of being in the first place? maybe something primal that we
all do naturally or perhaps it's to counter react any anxiety. In other words if I break the ice I feel ok, a rise in self-esteem, and then unless I find that person interesting I will let others continue and participate from the side lines.
Take some time to think about this one, and before you ask someone else to help you,
have a pretty strong idea as you want confirmation not a confrontation.
This has been mentioned in the previous chapter, and smattered about, energy is this invisible force that comes from within us. some are naturally dominant, some weak, others nervous, but we and our energies are affected by others:
Think about the people you know, family, friends and people at work. What energy do
they transmit through what they say, how they say it, how they move, their body
language, posture and how do you respond, do you feed it, or feed from it?
example: the receptionist at work, 'Hello Caspar, nice to see you, how's your father' (she has met him) Now how you read this depends on how good your acting is. Say it 'happy' with your head up, you transmit good energy. The response should be the same and mirror that energy, creating a balance.
Now try it with a tired voice head low, immediately sadness, and weak energy is
transmitted. And it affects you. this is how she thinks, and transmits it to those around her. You can motive this person with some of your own positive intonation 'my father is great thanks, have a terrific day, see you later'. The truth is you can't change people in an instant and it would drain your energy. She needs to do something active, change the song in her head or on the radio and this could take hours or days.
-the weak drain you +the happy complement you
-the neurotic tire you +the interesting interest you
-the aggressive smother you +the dynamic charge you up
Of course you need to be in a neutral state, or better to respond to the positive vibes around you. Avoid all negatives. Keep you head up, your mind open, eat well, do
exercise and you will be in the right state. Also remember that if you are busting to go to the toilet, or hungry you are not in a neutral state, you may feel like you can handle what’s about to happen, a meeting for example, but things will start to get beyond your control.
We select our friends based on these types of invisible energies, don't forget that some people like to be depressed and drain your energy, they are social vampires and tell them so. Some like to live in chaos, leave them to it otherwise they will affect you and it will take you days to recover your good energy.
Remember your friends need to be positive, happy, open-minded, We evolve as we get
older and circumstances reveal who we are and what makes comfortable and
uncomfortable, be aware of your energies and those around you.
Energy 2, Believe
Your are what you think and what you project, Peter Pan believes he can fly so he
does. Actors believe they are the character so they project it. God and fear exist in your head if you believe them you will see them. Fear of course can be real and your instincts should always be trusted. Fight or flight, flight is the safer and if you've been running like I mentioned then you happily and naturally be on your toes.
10. Energy at Work
Competence is attractive and those who see that will respond with similar intentions it's reciprocal, it rubs off.
How do we maintain this, if you have a practical job, you repeat tasks and they
become second nature transmitting competence and normally good energy.
What happens if you have a less task based profession? Example: I teach Spanish
military officers English, this requires presenting information with confidence and controlas I want the energy in the room to be positive 'can do' state I have to step up my natural clam quiet state and transmit , like an actor, presenter, or radio DJ the information needs to be clear correct and engaging, I want my students to be listening, and interacting. This of course means I'm using up my good vibe energy and I will need time later in the day to relax, be quiet, do some sport in order to charge up. Sleep of course is one of the natural ways we respond to working hard.
If you're in a position of responsibility you have other members of staff that you manage how do you get the best out of them?
You could say nothing and hope they pick up on your good or bad energy, but that is
vague and ineffective. you could confront and tell someone they are doing a bad job.
But put yourself in there shoes. this confrontation isn’t going to achieve what is needed from them and it will create bad vibes.
Empowering them is much more active. even if you think they are doing a bad job tell
them they are doing ok (as they are probably are doing what they believe to be their
job) but you want more than just 8 hours attendance you want dynamic, motivated,
creative, initiative, people with good energy, for them and for you. follow up your 'ok' comment with an open question 'how could you make your work better?' try and get an immediate response, '..errm, prepare better' there you have it, this person knows their weakness and now they have highlighted it to you and themselves. complement them 'great idea, make it happen, and if there is anything you need from me..' no uncomfortable confrontation, no deliberating and what ifs just action and positive energy.
If however they say that they don’t know, just give them one or two 'how about..'
suggestions. but make them feel like it was their idea.
'how about preparation, how’s that going could you improve?'
They have fallen into your trap, but it creates good vibes and you get what you need
from that member of staff.
It's important not to be blinkered, so study what you don’t understand. Therefore
although this text is based on what I know or have experience of. I would like any
comments, or personal examples to help develop these ideas.
In addition it would be interesting for me to discuss new ideas things that haven’t yetbeen spoken about so any subject that you feel needs some analysis I will gladly devote some time to.
I will finish with two phrases one that sounds wonderful with a thick London accent, ‘be lucky’ and another that I didn’t understand in my twenties but now see where people are coming from: ‘be happy’.
Caspar RJ Chamberlain BA Hon
As a Man Thinketh, James Allen(1909)
Improve Your Chess, (…)
The Burden of the Self, Emanuela Tegla (2007)
Be the Pack Leader, Cesar Millan (2007)
Pitch Yourself, Bill Faust (2006)
Influential people real or fictional
Lionel Chamberlain (father) aka 00118
Dick Selicks (innovator)
Bill Faust (Writer and 'can do man')
Jairo Lugo (professor and journalist)
Kev Skipper ( a man with more common sense than half the population)
Meneer (for being South African)
All the characters of Usual Suspects
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